Influence

INFLUENCE
A prominent word that served in the conception of this blog.
It's "the capacity to have an effect on the character, development, or behavior of someone or something, or the effect itself." More specifically, "a person or thing with the capacity or power to have an effect on someone or something."

I initially started this blog to document and have a place to share how Ian influences my life...how a choice I made over 4 years ago influences my life. I've shared milestones, special occasions, traditions, events, outings, outfits, foodie trips, mama tips, and the single-mama perspective. There is nothing that Ian hasn't influenced whether I share it on here or not.

As Ian has gotten older, it's not hard to tell that it's not just me that he influences. Ever since he's been going out with his grandparents, I hear stories about how Ian made their friends laugh, surprised, impressed and happy. He's gotten to be the "apo" to a group of senior citizens who dances, exercises, eats and goes to church with them. When they see me and tell me their stories and say how smart he is, I can't help but feel proud. I've raised a fun-loving little boy that brings joy and new perspective. It's an amazing feeling.

We pray every night that we not only have the right people in our lives, but that we can serve as good people in other people's lives as well. It drives me to tears knowing that everyday God hears and answers our prayers.

I have a great support system. It's not huge, but it's solid. Family - traditional, one-parent, divorced, separated, widowed... I've been blessed to know that love can be built, grown and thrive in various situations. Friends - family friends I've known since birth, pre-school bffs, to friendships that this year marks 10 or 20 years. They have all placed their influence on me and made me who I am and how I want to be for Ian (and my future family).

As a single mom, (let's just put it out there) I have to be open to letting others in. Obviously, not with Ian so soon on that level, but with me. Connecting, trusting and having them take my time is a big deal. There have been a couple people that have reached out to me to have some kind of part in my life again but that's just something I don't need. I am my own gatekeeper. I know the type of people I want and need in my life.

It comes full circle to influence. How you treat me will affect significant parts of my life, whether you know it or not. Trust me when I say no. and trust me when I say please. I will fight like hell to keep people out and just as hard to keep people in, have people stay.

With that said, I can wait. 

I will wait for when he is ready, willing, open, present. 

The uniqueness of his character and integrity is valid. 

Love has grown from imperfect situations.

We need that heaven sent influence.

If you are already part of my life, thank you.
Each and every one of you have something special that I want Ian to be influenced by.
In return, we promise to inspire, laugh, love and be a consistent blessing in your life.
People come and go, but to stay is a choice.
There are no accidents.
You will never be treated as an accident.

<3

Melissa